WORK ON YOURSELF
Nothing goes away until it has taught us what we need to learn. A broken heart can be a great life-altering experience. Being alone can teach you a thing or two. Break up can give you a chance to detox yourself spiritually, mentally, and physically. Whether you believe in God, or you are an atheist, it will make you stronger mentally. When you realize you want your ex back, you also need to learn to truly let go of your old self; and create and cultivate a new you. Instead of sitting around and thinking about how unhappy you are, focus on improving your work or social life. You can’t force someone to see that you are a blessing. Sometimes, you just have to let them miss out; and work on bettering yourself.
Things you can do to be the best version of yourself
A strong mind is a beautiful one – Train your mind to be stronger than your emotions. Lose yourself from the shackles of the past; pick yourself up, and bounce back. Splitting up any relationship is painful. It’s a terrible feeling; to not know, if he feels the same. But, one thing you can control is yourself. Keep calm, and fall in love with yourself first.
Nourish your spirit – Self-love is the first step to enrich your soul. Rather than obsessing over your ex boyfriend, pursue activities you enjoy. Pick up that paintbrush again, dance your heart out, sing and create music for yourself, read the book you wished to read for so long, play the sport you enjoy, learn new things, accomplish new milestones, try to be productive and have fun while doing it. Focus on living life on your terms. It’s only natural to feel a positive surge of energy once you engage in the activities you enjoy. It will also help you discover a new you.
Rebuild your life – Take time off from the break-up. Reconnect with the friends you lost touch with; because you were so busy building your life together with your boyfriend. Spend time with your friends, visit your parents often, volunteer for the causes you believe in, visit spas and salons, and go on for movies and bowling dates with your girlfriends, plan parties with your friends, go on hikes and treks, join some clubs or classes, take a little break from your routine life and rejuvenate yourself. Just let go off yourself. Sometimes, just feeling good about yourself is therapeutic in itself. Be kind to yourself, and let yourself loose. Do things to boost your self-esteem. Be the same girl with the same name, but with a different mindset and a different game.
Your new version will make you more attractive and desirable for people around you. When your ex notices that you have turned things around for yourself, he can’t help but fall in love again, with the stronger, sexier, and fun-loving woman that you have become. It may seem like you lost the relationship but found yourself.
When you have just lost the love of your life, the broken heart doesn’t feel anything else, but the grief. It’s incredibly painful to accept that you guys are not a couple any longer. But, if you wish to get back together with your boyfriend, there is still hope. If the hope is alive, you definitely don’t want to mess it by looking and feeling terrible all the time. Now that you have the entire time to yourself, utilize it to be the best version of yourself.
Get a haircut or a complete makeover, refresh your wardrobe, join the gym, Pilates or yoga classes and get back in shape, eat healthy, and look after yourself. Make sure you don’t go overboard and do not alter your personality. Just be positive, upbeat, and happy. Get fit, healthy, and look good. Remember who you were before you met him, and the game will change. Don’t be afraid to show the world this by posting some pictures on Facebook, Twitter, or Snap Chat. There are chances that your boyfriend may contact you, especially if you are ignoring him and he finds out about your makeover. If he does contact you, make sure he sees the gorgeous woman; and not some damsel in distress. Though this sounds a little vain, there’s no denying that being physically attractive is a crucial factor in attracting someone.