19 signs a man is falling in love with you
When it comes to men, it is most definitely a puzzle that has baffled women for ages. So much so, that books were written that say “Men are from Mars…”
So if you are questioning whether he is in love with you (yes that guy about whom you are thinking of at present) but has not uttered the magical words yet, we have 19 useful tips for you.
There are many markers that could have led you to think whether your man is secretly in love with you- his hugs, the conversational tone, or how he acts when you are around. The list is endless.
It is true that men and women are poles apart when it comes to anything that involves the display of emotions. So talking about it is completely off the charts for most of them. However, men do act upon that emotion. There are times when it takes one person to read in between their lines and pick up on their actions to understand how a man truly feels about you.
There is one thing we can vouch for- when a guy falls in love with you, he will do anything that takes to make his woman happy. However, women do need some TLC which men tend to forget, along with clear communications and a manifestation of emotions to understand that the man is still into her. There are many signs and mostly they are obvious, while some are more subtle.
1. He craves for physical touch and intimacy
Ladies, we are not talking about ‘in bed’ physical intimacy. Not that it isn’t a great thing. But when physical touches go beyond the bedroom, it is mostly because he cannot keep his hands off you (in a non-sexual way). Random hugs from the back, or a peck on the cheek when you are lost in thoughts. Taps on your shoulder, holding hands, tickling you, or poking you playfully are all clear signs of the fact that he craves intimacy.
2. He has a list of your favorite things
He will remember all the details of those times when you were binge watching The Office for the hundredth time, or a Harry Potter marathon on the weekends where you discussed your favorite character with him. It could be your favorite brand of chocolate that is only sold downtown and he will make sure to drive for two hours and get them for you. He will make sure to get your favorite author’s books or the quirkiest sweatshirt for you just because you love it. Things like these are clear signs that he loves you but does not say it.
3. He really sees you for who you are
It is fairly easy to take notice of the most obvious things about people. But when someone sees things that we do not consciously express, it means they know you inside out. If your guy notices how you interact with strangers, friends, and family, or any other social setting and understands how you are feeling, pays keen attention to the details, he truly sees you.
Now there are two kinds of love- one that makes you feel good about yourself, and feeds to your ego; the other makes you see the good and the bad and then makes you fall for them despite the imperfections. This is not to say that the former kind of love is not true, but it is kind of selfish and mostly does not last for a long time.
So when a man sees you with all your perfections and imperfections, he loves not just how you make him feel, but also loves things about you. In such cases, he will also see through times when you are falling short. It is definitely not a pleasant experience. But it speaks volumes about how much the guy loves you.
4. He knows and remembers the important dates
Birthdays, anniversaries, a doctor’s appointment, or the date when you both first met each other– if he remembers important dates for you, ladies you have a keeper! It is pretty common for women to remember these dates. As clichéd as it might sound- women remember birthdays, holidays, and dates. But if he remembers dates which are important to you, it is obvious that he is in love with you.
5. You have his full attention
In many instances, what women expect from their men is to simply have their undivided attention and listen to them. It might seem like something very insignificant. But paying attention to people actually goes a long way. It communicates the fact that you are important to him. So if he pays attention to you when you are upset, or depressed, happy, or when you have had a bad day at work and agrees to watch your favorite movie- you, my friend, be assured that your man loves you.
Conversations between you and your man will be never-ending since you will have a lot to talk about. He will initiate conversations that hint clearly that he wants to build a deeper connection with you which resonates and allows any topic to flow freely between both of you. You will also find him eager to understand your perspective of things and he will make an effort to gain knowledge about things from you. If you find these things taking place frequently and effortlessly, you can be certain that he loves you.
7. He does not give up on you
Any relationship takes conscious effort, time and commitment from two people in order to flourish. Your relationship with him is no different. Just as it is important to ensure that you both are on the same page, there are bound to be instances when you will not see eye to eye with each other. There will be fights and heated conversations. But he will not quit.
If a man claims to love you but flees at the slightest amount of trouble brewing, be assured it was not true love. When you love someone, you do not give up on them without trying to make it work.
8. He is comfortable in showing his playful side when he is with you
Men might pretend to be rough and deny to display any emotions, but mostly they are childlike deep inside. But if your man has been more playful with you around, it is hard not to enjoy. It can be sharing random poor cringe worthy jokes, or a random pillow fight, or not letting you get work done by getting in your way deliberately- play along with him. It might be that eventually, he admits to being in love with you! It is most definitely one of the cutest things!
9. He maintains eye contact
One of the greatest giveaways when it comes to a man being truly involved with you is his facial expression or more precisely eye contact. Pay close attention to the amount of eye contact he makes while having a conversation with you. A small twinkle of the eyes when he talks about something he is passionate about, or while being in a room full of strangers, he makes it a priority to look for you and hold silent conversations. This is a clear early sign that shows he is falling in love with you.
10. He is vulnerable with you
Has your man been more vocal about things that were embarrassing or awkward for him? Or an old video from his childhood which caught him doing something silly? Or maybe he has been more open in general with you? Stories and incidents that no one else knows, but you do. It is for the best because he is trying to show how much he loves you without using any words or actions.
11. He goes out of his way to do things for you
A shopping trip or an appointment for a relaxing spa day, you can find him with you, genuinely enjoying your company. This is definitely one of the clearest indications that he would accompany you to all these places than sit at home for hours and play video games. When a man is in love with you, he will always go out of his way to do things for his woman.
12. He is protective of you
There is a fine line between a man who is protective of you, and one who believes you to be his possession. If he wants to hide you in a closet from the rest of the world for the sake of keeping you safe, it’s time to run for the hills!
But if he texts you to know whether you have reached home safely, or offers to pick you up after a late night with your girls, or a simple phone call to know that you are doing okay- it translates as his protective nature! Take note girls- he is in love with you but does not say it!
13. He makes sure to resolve fights
It is completely natural for two people to fight when they are in close proximity to each other. However, it is crucial to understand how fights and differences are resolved between two people. If he owns up his mistakes and issues and is ready to apologize, he is definitely in love with you! It means that he is eager to build a healthy communicative relationship with you and is even ready to compromise. He is ready to put in the extra effort!
14. He is with you even when you are blue
None of us can be happy and cheerful all the time. Life is bound to get under our skin and make us feel terrible. If you want to spend your day bundled in bed and order pizza while watching The Notebook, he will not judge you! In fact, he might show up at your doorstep with a cheese pizza and a bottle of red wine just to be with you- no judgments. He is with you at your worst, which shows he truly loves you and is not afraid to show it.
15. He respects you even when you are not around
It is hard to deny that we have come across men trash talking about their significant others way too often while putting up a fake show when they are with their women. Well, if he respects you and talks highly about you even when you are not around, he loves you.
16. Occasional surprises
We all love surprises (mostly), even more, when it comes from a man we are truly in love with. It does not have to be a grand surprise. It can be receiving flowers at work when you have been having a bad day. Or an intimate dinner with home-cooked food after a long stressful day at work. All these actions do speak louder than words- he loves you without saying it.
17. You are a part of his family gatherings and outings
He invites you to his family gathering and introduces you to his parents. It is one of the best signs that he loves you. It is not just an important step in a relationship, but it is important for you to understand your significance in his life. If he considers you to be important, he would want you to be loved by his family as well. This setting is without any doubt, is an indication of your man being head over heels in love with you.
18. His family and friends have welcomed you with open arms
Now, you can consider it a sealed deal if his mother knows your favorite dishes and his cousin sisters are always eager to whisk you away to spill some tea about themselves. You are a part of his home, and this is only possible when he truly loves you and wants to be with you. You might also find his parents and friends looking out for you since you are a part of the family!
19. He takes interest in your hobbies
It might not always be that you and your guy share the same hobbies. However, if you find him to take interest in things that are important to you, it is a sign that he cares deeply about you. If you are a book lover, you might find a signed copy from your favorite author which you secretly had always wanted! He will make it happen just because he wants you to be happy.
At the end of the day, we are surrounded by multiple ideas of what love should be, and how it should look like. However, in many instances, these ideas do not lead us anywhere (let’s be real- life is not a Nicholas Sparks movie).
It is true that love is one of the most beautiful things we will ever come across. But it is also scary, which makes us wary and skeptical. We build high walls around ourselves to protect us from inevitable heartache. However, we hope this article made things easier for you to understand whether he is truly in love with you. If you have found a firm yes to most of them, then it is safe to say you have found the one!